Reid and I sat down and answered some of your questions I frequently get asked about. Like how long we’ve been married (13 years in march), where we met (Chicago), if we fight (haha) and what makes a good relationship tick. I thought these questions deserved more than an instagram post or IG stories answer, but a full on blog post. This blog post will be one of 2 posts. So welcome to the marriage series. I love this subject! Read on.
Key message: 1) Marriage is a joy. 2) Marriage is work. 3) Marriage is intimate.
When I went to college there was a saying, “ring by spring”. Do you know what kind of pressure that put on me? While my girlfriends were all getting rings before graduation, I was yet to even go out on a date. But not dating was my decision. I was guarding my heart for the one man who deserved it. I didn’t know who he was at the time, but I knew the kind of person he would be. Here’s the man I was looking for and let me remind you that it is about the inside and whether he’s pleasant to look at is just the icing on the cake.
A gentle spirit. Yes! So many people in our culture praise those men who are Type ‘A’ males. Competitive winners, aggressive, loud, confident. But for me, I find the man who has a gentle spirit is a man who will be loyal to you, a husband / father who is present and will compromise with you through life’s arguments (decisions). Truth be known, even a gentle man has opinions…so don’t walk all over him. Instead appreciate his prudence.
A man who works hard. You can tell when a man is a hard worker. First, observe who he is among his friends. Does he open the door for you? Does he go out of his way to open the door for you? Watch him around his friends. Does he help his friends move into a new place? Is he lifting things…or telling people what to do? I prefer the guy taking action and not the guy bossing people around.
Why is character important? His character will last throughout his life. Not his blond hair and muscles. So choose wisely girlfriends! Be prudent and most importantly, guard your heart. The man you are to call husband is out there. I know, because I waited and eventually I found him.
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